Why doesn't my boyfriend comfort me? He is otherwise a very loving, affectionate person. However, when I am upset, he never knows what to say. But the moment he is upset, I have to rush in to comfort him. It makes me feel emotionally isolated and, to an extent, as if I am "mom." What's going on here? Cary McNeal answered I Have Feelings Too!'s question on March 27, 2012 1:40 PM You answered your own question. If he's warm and caring all other times, it must be that he doesn't know what to say. A lot of guys turn into deer in headlights when a woman is upset. They don't know what to say and they don't have confidence in their own ability to comfort you, so they just detach. Knowing how to encourage someone who's down is a skill that takes practice, and a lot of guys get no practice until they are in a relationship. You become their learning curve, and a big part of any learning curve is failure. Obviously, you need to tell him how you feel: isolated, neglected, like you're his mother. Remind him that you need to be comforted just as much as he does when things go wrong. But more importantly--this is key--tell him that he doesn't have to be Dr. Phil to help you. Guys tend to lack confidence because they don't have some groundbreaking insight into your dilemma, but all you really need is someone to listen and say, "You're right" and "I'm sorry" and "How can I help?" It took me a while to learn this as a husband. I'm a problem-solver by nature, so when my wife would come to me with a problem, I would start telling her what she needed to do to fix it instead of just shutting the hell up and listening. You don't need solutions at that moment; you need love and support and a shoulder to cry on. You need an advocate and a friend, not a dad or a brilliant therapist. Tell your guy this. All he needs to do is commiserate and listen. It's not hard; anyone can do it. Even him. Thanks for the question.

i know i have to let go but my heart just refuse to listen to my brain.

Friends?

Sometimes I just feel I have friends that dun really care. Does the problem lies with me? I hate that feeling. And I probably will feel that way very soon

so ya...

i nv feel this sad before.

ever.

happy new year?

Everyone seems to be enjoying the new year. Why can't i?
Is not my fault that my father is this way, its not our fault.
Why do we have to get punished for it?
I just don't understand what he is thinking, just don't understand why is it me or us?
I wanna enjoy every moment of the new year but didn't get to.
It just sucks to be me or us.
I should just go enjoy drinking and get out of the house not bothering about anything like what my bro did.

yea... happy new year.

猜不透

sometimes i just don't understand.
sometimes i just don't know why i feel that way.

Something deep inside... Get it out!

Haven't blog for a long time.
Today, there is something bugging me. Something heavy, making my heart sink, maybe feeling worried.

I have a vague idea what is causing that.

It's a brand new chapter from tmr on. Hope it goes right and hope everything will be alright for both of us.

Exams and projects are coming soon! Hope this period pass fast.


I miss you already...

SIck

had fever yesterday. i thought i recovered, but i started to feel worst today. :(
i can really concentrate on my project.

. . .

The weather is so cold and school is fine but lonely.

very little time t............... :(

miss u so much.

you can never change.

Everytime you had a bad day, you vent your anger. No matter how i try to make you look good, i will never suceed.

(:

I am so bored at home...

I miss....

Them:

And Them: (although im meeting them tonight)
And them:

And many more........

I REALLY need a job! :(

Whenever sang my songs
On the stage, on my own
Whenever said my words
Wishing they would be heard
I saw you smiling at me
Was it real or just my fantasy
You'd always be there in the corner
Of this tiny little bar

My last night here for you
Same old songs, just once more
My last night here with you?
Maybe yes, maybe no
I kind of liked it your way
How you shyly placed your eyes on me

Oh, did you ever know?
That I had mine on you

Darling, so there you are
With that look on your face
As if you're never hurt
As if you're never down
Shall I be the one for you
Who pinches you softly but sure
If frown is shown then
I will know that you are no dreamer

So let me come to you
Close as I wanted to be
Close enough for me
To feel your heart beating fast
And stay there as I whisper

How I loved your peaceful eyes on me
did you ever know
That I had mine on you

Darling, so share with me
Your love if you have enough
Your tears if your're holding back
Or pain if that's what it is
How can I let you know
I'm more than the dress and the voice
Just reach me out then
You will know that you're not dreaming

Darling, so there you are
With that look on your face
As if you're never hurt
As if you're never down
Shall I be the one for you
Who pinches you softly but sure
If frown is shown then
I will know that you are no dreamer

thinking and thinking gives me headache

IB test was a killer i heard...
how can i cope man?
having headache for the pass week
so irritaing..

fri its ps!
have to study hard!!!!
confused and confused! -.-
stupid me... stupid head. -.-

O_O

thinking and thinking!
what the hell is wrong with me... :(

11111....

Projects starting to see something...
Although questions are still un-aniseed,
I do feel a little relieve!

Hope everything can be better and better

thinking & thinking till my head explode

recently super stress although i am still procrastinating...
can't stop thinking too..
the projects are like trying to fry my brains.
still the questions are unsolved.
lets see which projects i am left:
-SOQM
-CB
-PS
-IMC
-CCM

hmm... its all of the projects. -.-
i have to start now!

如果我 還握住拳頭
可能我怕我的夢飛走
可是,
我不是你想像那麽勇敢

questions.......................................

my questions hiding in head.

now,
why did i waste my day away?
why am i so tired?
why why why?